Commercial preparations available over the counter which claim to soothe sunburn usually contain some local anaesthetic, and we do not recommend their use. Never put butter on a burn — this can actually worsen the burn and lead to infection.

• if blisters break open or the fluid inside them is murky;

• if your child has a fever, or is listless;

• if you cannot control your child’s pain with the measures outlined above;

• if there is marked swelling in the area of the burn, or the burn itself looks infected.

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Marriages can learn to enjoy themselves at home as well as outside the home. I assigned a marriage sitter to all of the couples, and they reported it helped in organizing the house and provided a respite from the constant and hectic daily schedule. It’s a good idea to get the marriage sitter during the week. He or she might be able to help the kids with homework, too, while you two sit and do nothing or take your walk together. If you are very courageous, you might go up to your privacy place and put in a little practice time on the posture of the future while the marriage sitter protects your privacy for you.

“I think at first it blew her mind,” said one husband. “We had her come over one Thursday a month. She made dinner for all of us, put the kids to bed, and answered the phone. We had her do one household chore that we both hated, like fold clothes or something. She stood lookout for us while we were in the bedroom. She never said a thing, but I’ll bet her parents heard about those perverts who stayed home when the babysitter was there and even went into their bedroom alone. We got some strange looks from her mother at the grocery store the other day.”

It takes courage to make a super sexual marriage. You have to be willing to stand out as a marriage, to break away from the established pattern. After a time, however, my couples found that other marriages were coming to them for,guidance. In effect, they were being asked to expand their sex clinic. I told them to avoid telling anyone what to do, but to enjoy their new advisory status by talking about what they did in their own marriage. Tell them anything you like, but keep the posture of the future a secret. Although it does serve as a marital attention-getter, it’s a symbol for more basic and substantial marital and sexual changes. It might help others become curious enough to make their own changes and open their own sex clinic.

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“I swear they have a chart pinned inside their door. Each man’s name is written in over this type of body chart. They mark where the man left off. . . like, Fred at the knee, Al at the breast, Steve at the nipple. They give it a little at a time.” This report from a husband recalling his courtship shows clearly the immaturity of the whole situation, the bartering instead of bonding.

There are people you will want to touch right away, to hold, to be close to. There are other people with whom handholding is a major sacrifice. Let the person and your feelings be your guide, not some sex chart of cultural or gender expectations. Once we learn that sex is more decision than impulse, start teaching that in the family, in church, and at school, then we will be free to touch instead of have “foreplay,” to experience sex as a process instead of a goal.

“I didn’t want to be a tease. I loved making out, but I stopped at that. The boys thought I was terrible. I would love to just kiss all night, and they would complain that they could die from this, perhaps from some type of internal genital explosion. One night I told a boy to go ahead and masturbate, and that when he was finished, we could go back to kissing up a storm. He thought I was nuts. He called me one of the ultimate names of the day, a ‘prick tease.’ I guess he felt I was only teasing that part of him, as if it had a mind of its own. It’s strange that you never hear much about a clit tease.” This report from one of the wives about her early courtship shows the degree to which we have genitalized our lovemaking.

As it is in courtship, so it may be in marriage. If we cling to the “time bomb” theory of sex, that once the fuse is set, there must be an ultimate explosion, we miss out on some of the most exciting and intimate experiences of human interaction: the freedom to touch and kiss and hold just for the sake of doing only that.

One of the wives reported, “Now that our therapy is finished, do you know what we like to do? I know this sounds strange, but we go out in the car at night and neck. Just neck. We get so turned on that the windows steam over like the old days. That’s all, we just do that. It’s great.”

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The tetanus germs produce a poison or toxin which affects the nervous system.

The first symptoms are often restlessness and agitation which is then followed by spasm of the muscles.

The jaw muscles are often the first affected and so the patient has difficulty in opening the mouth — the old name for tetanus was lock-jaw.

Eventually all the muscles go into severe cramps or spasms and breathing may be affected and the patient may then die of lung or heart failure.

The modern treatment of tetanus is to sedate the patient heavily with massive doses of diazepam, a tranquilliser and a curare-like muscle relaxant drug used in anaesthesia.

A tracheotomy, or opening of the windpipe is made and the patient is put on a breathing machine and breathes artificially.

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Some newer drugs have a mild diuretic action and a potassium-sparing effect as well. These are often added to the diuretic to prevent the excretion of potassium and so no added potassium is necessary.

We now believe we have somewhat over-reacted to the reports about the need to add extra potassium when using diuretics.

When the diuretic is used to control high blood pressure, there is usually no need for extra potassium. It may be necessary in treating heart failure if digitalis is used as well.

In liver and kidney disease, regular blood tests, will determine whether potassium is low, and when the supplements are necessary.

Although there is little risk from taking extra potassium if it is not needed, the real problem is that the normal dose is six tablets daily. This extra load on top of those prescribed to treat the condition may make some people give all their tablets away or take a reduced dose.

Better patient compliance seems to go with fewer tablets and the less often they need to be taken during the day.

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As with bow legs and in-toeing, there is little functional impairment from this condition but the appearance is unattractive and may require treatment.

Knock knees are thought to be due to posture and sleeping habits, although some researchers doubt this.

Sleeping on the back with the legs and feet rotated outwards like a frog, may be the cause. Or a child may sleep on his face with the legs extended and the feet turned in, but apart from each other.

Knock knees usually do not require treatment unless the child, standing with knees together, has the ankles at a greater distance than 10 cm (4 in).

Normally, if treatment is required, the legs can be placed in splints during sleep. Rarely are operations necessary.

It is wise for parents to avoid “folk lore” treatments, such as making the child wear his shoes on the opposite feet. This doesn’t work.

If parents are worried by their children’s feet and legs, medical advice should be sought. Most cases will not require treatment and will spontaneously revert to normal.

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This word ‘ionising’ means that the X-rays are capable of damaging the actual molecules of substances that they pass through. The amount of damage depends on the ’strength’ of the X-rays and the length of exposure. There is no amount of radiation that can be guaranteed as absolutely safe but it is believed that the amount of radiation involved in taking X-rays has only a very minute chance of causing problems such as cancer in the future. Every effort is made to keep the radiation to a minimum. Much research has gone into developing equipment that will take good X-rays with the least possible amount of radiation going through the patient. The rays only pass through you for a very short time while the machine is turned on. Your doctor and X-ray specialists between them should ensure that X-rays are taken in such a way that they get the maximum information for the least possible amount of radiation. Ask them about this if you are worried. They should tell you why the X-rays are being taken, what information they will give, and why it is important to have this information.

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