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“For the Lord sayeth, ‘Women, look to thy husbands, and obey them all the days of your lives.’”

“That’s right. Just lie back now.”

“Anything you say, dear. Are my legs spread out enough?”

“Yes, thanks. They’re fine.”

“And my vagina—is it wet enough?”

“It could be a little wetter.”

“All right. I’ll try to make it wetter.”

“Thanks.”

“And my mouth—is it open wide enough?” “Do you have to ask me everything?” “I must look to my husband and obey him.” “You’ve done enough looking and obeying.” “But the Lord sayeth, ‘Cursed be the name Woman.’ Didn’t He say that, dear? ‘Cursed be the name Woman’?” “He might have. I forget right now.” “Am I cursed, dear?”

“Yes, you’re cursed. All women are cursed.” “I’m so sorry I’m cursed. I aplogize for being a woman. Will you forgive me for being cursed?” “All right.”

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Happy ending! They make love and, as in the children’s story, the Beast is transformed into a handsome prince. In this scenario, he may actually remove his costume, mask, and wig, or he may simply change his personality. He might also change his clothing, donning a prince’s outfit.

“Who are you?” the wife asks.

“You can call me Prince B.”

“What happened?”

“Your love for me changed me from a beast to a handsome prince.”

“Isn’t that amazing! I think I’d like to make love to you again.”

“All right—if you insist.”

Playing out this game provides an opportunity for the angry husband and wife to step out of their customary mode of relating and see each other from the vantage point of this children’s story. Such children’s stories are universal because their messages ring true—and, by playing them out, the truths embedded in them (such as that beauty and beastliness are only skin deep) are experienced firsthand by the participants. This game also shows the husband and wife how to convert their anger into sexuality—something they may have forgotten. Finally, it induces them to look objectively at the rut they have been in and the attitudes that have kept them there. (This game can be reversed and played as “Handsome and the Bitch.”)

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Sex-therapy games for such couples must confront both their obsessive and their compulsive attitudes. These attitudes have strong secondary gratifications: The obsessive control freak gets to set the standards for the couple and to dominate according to those standards, while the compulsive slob defies those standards and undermines the obsessive person. Each derives immense satisfaction from his or her role, which he or she has played since early childhood. Old habits die hard.

The following games address these secondary gratifications and attempt to loosen the grips of obsession-compulsion.

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The sexual psychopaths also tend to be better educated: among all except the exhibitionists they have a larger proportion of persons with some college education, and in five of our six comparative cases they also had a larger proportion with eleventh- and twelfth-grade education. Once again this situation is probably the result of selection on the basis of treatability, those with more education being on the whole more intelligent than those with less. In addition, other factors may be involved: the better educated may more often request psychiatric examination, and there is a tendency for clinicians to feel an increased obligation to try to salvage someone with greater education and social status.

The same picture prevails when one examines intelligence ratings. In all but the exhibitionists the sexual psychopaths reveal far larger proportions of men with above-average intelligence.

In terms of the person’s previous history of treatment for mental disturbance, there were no consistent differences between the sexual psychopaths and other offenders regarding institutionalization: relatively few (never over 8 per cent) had ever been in a mental institution prior to the sex offense that labeled them. However, more sexual psychopaths than other offenders had received private treatment—a not unexpected finding—but this was true of only a few individuals. When one considers either the proportion of married men or their ages when first married, a number of interesting phenomena come to light. In four of our six offense groups essentially the same proportions of sexual psychopaths and other offenders had been married. However, in the other two groups there are radical differences: among the exhibitionists 76 per cent of the sexual psychopaths married as opposed to 62 per cent of the other offenders, despite the fact that the latter were, on the average, nearly ten years older than the former. This should not be construed to mean that the exhibitionists who were not sexual psycho paths had a less or more difficult heterosexual development. On the contrary, more of them had premarital coitus, and with more females, than did the sexual psychopaths. The reason for this difference in proportion ever married remains unknown. The other group displaying a marked difference is the homosexual offenders vs. minors: 24 per cent of the sexual psychopaths had married in contrast to 44 per cent of the other offenders. The difference in this instance may be that the sexual psychopaths were more strongly homosexual; note that 29 per cent had no premarital coitus, a figure nearly double that of the other homosexual offenders vs. minors.

The accumulative incidence figures of age at first marriage show that in earlier adult life, from age eighteen up to twenty or twenty-three, the sexual psychopaths generally have larger proportions of men marrying. This trend ceases or is even reversed later in life for four groups, and only among the exhibitionists and incest offenders do the sexual psychopaths maintain their “lead.” This tendency among the sexual psychopaths toward early marriage is more in keeping with the prison group’s behavior than with that of the control group.

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It seems clear that while automobiles were of some importance, they did not play a major role as a site for or as an aid in sex offenses. They were most used in the aggression offenses, in exhibition, and in acts against male or female minors. It might be suggested that our sample of convicted sex offenders came from an economic and social class that did not typically have cars available for their use. There may be some validity in this notion, but car ownership is so ordinary, even at lower income levels, that it seems doubtful. The once-held notion that cars furnish the chief means for sex offenses is just not substantiated by the present data.

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other offenders. These homosexual offenders not only occupy the upper three positions of the rank-orders, but a substantial gap separates them from the fourth-ranking group. From puberty-15 they drew about one sixth of their total outlet from contact with other males. This proportion increased with age until in later life the homosexual offenders vs. children and minors obtained about one quarter to two fifths of their orgasms in this way, and the homosexual offenders vs. adults about half to three fifths.

At the other end of the scale, the single males with the smallest proportions of total outlet derived from homosexuality—never more than 1 per cent—are the incest offenders vs. minors and adults. The majority of the unmarried offenders do not exceed the 5 per cent level, and the control group tends to be in the central portion of the rank-orders. However, the proportions tend to increase with age as the more heterosexual males marry and drop out of the calculations.

Homosexual experience during marriage accounts for only 1 per cent or less of the total outlet of all groups except the homosexual offenders and, in the earliest age-period only, the prison group. Among the homosexual offenders the percentages in general increase with age.

The data for separated, divorced, and widowed males are very difficult to interpret, and much of the variability may be a function of sample size. However, the homosexual offenders again head the rank-orders, with the homosexual offenders vs. adults usually deriving about two fifths of their outlet between twenty-one and forty-five from other males. Homosexual activity was much more variable in and also less important to the other homosexual offenders. All other groups never exceeded the 5 per cent level.

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Median frequencies of nocturnal orgasm among the married vary only from 3 to 5 per year among those who experience this involuntary activity. This narrow range and rarity coupled with small Ns makes further analysis useless.

The mean frequencies among single males experiencing nocturnal orgasm range ordinarily from roughly 8 to 25 orgasms per year.

We are left with one major finding: frequency of orgasm while sleeping is far greater among the single men of the control group than among any others. Discussion of the significance of this will be deferred until the section on proportion of total outlet.

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To be more specific, these 16 cases may be placed in two categories:

1.    Those who employ obscene pictures, gestures, or speech as a

means of soliciting others for sexual activity. While they may gain

some pleasure from this modus operandi, their main aim is to get an

immediate sexual partner; it is not “obscenity for its own sake” as is

typical of the “obscene telephoners,” although an occasional telephoner

may also obscenely solicit. In this category, which can be labeled (to

the confusion of the British) “obscene solicitors,” we can see two sub-

groups:

Those who display obscene pictures under the generally erroneous impression that the female will be sexually aroused by them.

Those whose solicitation involves words or gestures regarded as obscene.

We have 11 “obscene solicitors” in our sample, and eight solicited females under age sixteen; in fact, seven solicited girls under twelve. Before one assumes that this is an activity associated specifically with pedophilia, one must realize that a powerful selective factor is involved: obscene solicitations directed toward adult females are almost always adequately handled by the woman herself and the law is less often brought into the matter. Six of the 11 males had been convicted of a sex offense other than that of obscenity.

2.    Those who were, in essence, guilty only of possessing obscene

material and who were not, insofar as is known, utilizing it for solicitation. We have three such cases. Two of the men were being investigated for some nonsexual behavior and the obscene material was discovered accidentally. In other words, the police “frisked” them and

found some erotica and used this discovery as a convenient excuse for

arrest and incarceration. The third case was one in which some boys discovered obscene material in a roomer’s suitcase and told their parents, who called the police.

The remaining two cases are miscellaneous: a man who decorated his jail cell with a drawing that the authorities found offensive and because of it prolonged his stay by an additional sentence, and secondly, a man who sent obscene material through the mail to a former girl friend.

Just as with the obscene telephone communication cases, this category of “other obscene communication” cases does not constitute an entity: the obscenity is just one minor symptom of social and psychological disorders that in most cases manifested themselves in more important and dramatic ways. Thus we find that of the 16 men, half were also convicted of more serious sex offenses, chiefly offenses vs. children and exhibition. Note that while exhibition was found in half of the histories of the males who made obscene telephone calls, there was no evidence of pedophilia. Of the remaining eight other obscene communication cases, we find:

Three males who solicited female children and who, in two of the instances, would probably have had overt sexual activity with them had they not been interrupted.

One male with a history of delinquency and crime including a juvenile sex offense.

One intelligent, educated, but highly neurotic man.

One male whose only other known undesirable behavior was vagrancy and drunkenness.

One male whose solicitation was well meant but foolishly crude.

One male who solicited by means of obscene notes left in cars and telephone booths. This male was akin to the “obscene telephoners” in that he obtained sexual pleasure in observing the women as they read his notes and in tensely waiting for women to find them. However, his main aim seems to have been obtaining a sexual relationship. Interestingly enough, in background this man was like the “obscene telephoners”—unbroken home, reasonable family life, an adequate hetero-sexuality, and an incidental homosexual experience.

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